Sometimes I keep myself so busy that I am not able to give my full attention to what matters most. I find myself feeling rushed, stuck, and like there is simply not enough time and I can’t give my best to everything.
After listening to Seth Godin’s book, “The Dip” I have decided there are a lot of things in my life I need to quit in order to reach my important goals. Godin says that the secret to success isn’t luck, or hard work, or dedication. He says the true secret is strategic quitting, instead of reactive and serial quitting.
He describes the two most common situations that lead people to quit as the “Dip” and the “cul-de-Sac.”
The Dip is the long, hard period between beginning something new and finally mastering it. It is the moments after the excitement of the beginning days have worn off and before the fulfillment of your dream. Although it may seem reasonable to quit, this is the time you should stick things out, because anything worth doing will have a dip.
Sometimes we are committed to a project, a company, or even a relationship, but come to realize that there is no potential for growth. That is what he calls a cul-de-sac. He says the cul-de-sacs drain your energy and resources, diverting your attention away from making it through a worthwhile dip.
“The dip gets better if you push hard enough. The cul-de-sacs never improve, no matter how hard you try. Success lies in recognizing a situation or relationship as a cul-de-sac and not being afraid to quit when you do,” Godin says.
This month I am contemplating what is worth pushing through and what I need to quit. I invite you to join me: this week look at what you can strategically quit that will give you more time to get through the dip in the things that are aligned with your purpose. Sometimes it is hard to quit things you have invested a lot of time in, but if it is a cul-de-sac, and it is draining your energy, it is the right thing to do.
As I am taking time this month to really look at what in my life is a cul-de-sac and what is a dip worth pushing through; I am asking myself the following questions that the Dalai Lama suggests we ask whenever we face making a decision:
1. Who benefits?
2. Is it just me or a group?
3. Is it my group or everyone?
4. Is it just for now or for the future?
What is one thing you should quit?