The past three days were some of the best I can remember.
I just got back from teaching intenSati and giving a keynote speech to thousands of women entrepreneurs at a corporate national training in Cincinnati. It was absolutely a highlight of my year, being with 3,600 amazing women who have their sights set on achieving their financial goals and helping others.
I woke up my first morning before sunrise and arrived at the huge room where I was supposed to teach. I waited as one person arrived, three people, ten people, thirty people. In minutes the room was filled with 150, ready to do intenSati with me. It was such a phenomenal experience as every single one of them went all in. Afterwards, my heart was so full from all of the hugs and joyful tears I received. I went on to teach two more classes, to 175 women and finally 3,000 women, each as heart-opening and tear-inducing as the last.
Finally, I was to give a keynote speech to 2,000 of the women at the training, and I couldn’t wait to have another opportunity to interact with this amazing group.
The core of my message of the speech I had prepared was that if you want to succeed in your life, you have to first succeed in your mind. The technique of visualizing your best outcome is much more than just positive thinking. When you focus on seeing your success in your mind and flooding your body with the feelings of appreciation and gratitude as if it is already done, you are changing the architecture of your brain. When you imagine something so vividly, your brain cells fire and rewire and you are now creating a map to your desired instead of dreaded future. It takes consistent practice because our default is set to fear, self doubt and self criticism and the negativity bias will tend to cause you to focus on the one thing that is wrong instead of all the good that is right in front of you.
The room was still set up for 3,600 people from the previous talk, so though my session was full, there were about 1,500 empty seats. It took real mental discipline for me to focus on the filled chairs instead of the empty ones.
As I neared the end of my speech, people walked out of the hall and I had to keep myself from wondering if they were leaving because they didn’t like it or they were bored. What I didn’t know was that many had chosen to miss the beginning of their next session to hear as much of mine as they could, but had to leave to attend the final session of the day.
As I finished, there was a line of women waiting by the stage to speak with me and 90% of them had tears of deep gratitude in their eyes as they expressed their appreciation for having heard exactly what they felt they needed that day.
This moment was what I had visualized as my image of success and over and over again, and I had the chance to experience that. But more importantly, the vision that I held in my mind is what helped me to keep my focus on my goal instead of on the empty chairs or the fear that I was not doing a good job.
Had I spent more time focusing on worries instead of success, I would have had plenty of opportunities to see the empty chairs or the people leaving as evidence of it not working out. But my mind was primed to look for evidence that it wasworking out, and kept me in the game of remembering that I was there to serve.
All in all it was truly a highlight of my year.
HOW TO FOCUS ON THE BEST CASE SCENARIO
- Play out the best possible outcome in your head, instead of worrying about what could go wrong.
- Practice it over and over in your mind as a present moment reality.
- When you are wallowing in self-doubt, ask yourself if what you are thinking is 100% true.
- Remember that you don’t have control over what others think, only what you give and when you give what you believe is valuable, your work is done and you have won!
If you have something important coming up, a presentation, a conversation, a creative project, fill your mind with visions of success. Winning in your mind will help you prime yourself for the success you desire.